How to be a better networker for people who hate networking

With Sarasota Summer Showcase just around the corner (June 27), we thought this article from The Washington Post was very relevant and helpful for our members who are not very keen with the ins-and-outs of networking.


Most species hang out only with family members. Everybody else is a potential enemy. Good ol’ Homo sapiens have been successful because we’ve extended the definition of family by using mutually agreed upon stories — “fictive kinship” as Israeli researcher Yuval Noah Harari points out.

Families are not merely blood relatives. We’re in many families: We’re Americans. We’re IBM employees. We’re on the same softball team. Most simply, we’re friends. This allows us to collaborate on a scale that’s impossible for other animals. This is the secret to our success as a species. It’s also the secret to your success as an individual: friendship.

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Even so, you might feel awkward about going up to that person who could be important to your career with what feels like the thin veneer of “friendship.” But that’s a false distinction. One of the primary things every romantic couple has in common is not magic, it’s proximity. It’s really hard to fall in love when you never encounter each other.

Sure, reaching out may feel awkward at first, but there’s no need to be afraid of networking. The truth is, we often underestimate by as much as 50 percent how much others are willing to help us when asked. Remember, the rule of thumb is simple when making friends: Assume other people will like you, and they probably will. Here are some other tips to help you become an effective networker.

Start with the friends you already have

Research shows that one of the quickest and easiest ways to boost your network isn’t to pass your business card out on street corners; it’s to reconnect with old friends. And there’s no sleazy element to it at all — they’re already your friends. You just haven’t caught up with them in a year. Go through your Facebook friends list, your LinkedIn connections, or your address book, and send a few emails every week, asking, “What’s up?” Research shows that those dormant friendships can actually be bigger boosters to your career than any new connections you make.

Find your ‘Superconnectors’

Not all people in a network are created equal, contact-wise. Northwestern University professor Brian Uzzi and journalist Sharon Dunlap did research and found that there’s an 80/20 rule of sorts in networking. You probably met the vast majority of your friends through a handful of “superfriends” — your buddies who are the most socially connected. So when it comes to trying to expand your network and make new friends, do what works. Reaching out to these “superfriends” and saying, “Whom do you know that I should meet?” will produce disproportionate results.

Make the time and the budget

People say they want to increase their networks but few really make it a priority, dedicate time for it, or commit something specific to it, such as “I’m going to allocate an extra $50 a week to having coffees and lunches in which I connect with people.” Entrepreneur and best-selling author Ben Casnocha saw that top networkers committed a certain amount of time and money to their networking goal so that when opportunities came up, they didn’t hesitate.

Join groups

No, not some corny “networking group.” Again, that’s awkward and borderline gross. Do you know a bunch of friends who have lunch every week? How about a group that watches football every Sunday? A book club at work? These are fun, passive ways to make sure you stay in the mix and connect with others organically.

Always follow up

We all meet people but we rarely take the time to follow up and actually begin a friendship. Analyzing 8 million phone calls between 2 million people, researchers at Notre Dame found that what makes close friendships endure is simply staying in touch every two weeks. Now, you don’t need to connect with people that often if they’re not close friends, but the principle still stands: Checking in every now and then matters.

Just like your mother taught you, say thank you

Research from the journal Cognition and Emotion shows that gratitude is the quality that makes people want to spend more time with you. Gratitude is the tactical nuke of happiness and the cornerstone of long-lasting relationships.

If it’s that simple — just taking time to say thanks — why don’t we all do it? Researchers call it “hedonic adaptation.” I call it “taking things for granted.” When you first get your new house, it’s the greatest thing that ever happened to you. A year later, it’s that money pit that needs a new roof. The joy of the new never lasts. And this happens with everything.

Making time to feel gratitude for what you have undoes the hedonic adaptation. And what’s the best way to do this? Thank the people around you. Relationships are the key to happiness, and taking the time to say “thanks” renews that feeling of being blessed.

So here is my final recommendation: Do a gratitude visit. This isn’t just some cute idea. Research by psychology professor Martin Seligman at the University of Pennsylvania shows that doing a gratitude visit is one of the most powerful ways to feel happier and to make someone else happy in the process.

It’s quite simple. Seligman says to write a letter of gratitude to someone. Make it concrete; say what they did for you and how it affected your life. Then set a time to sit down with them, but don’t say why. When you meet, read them the letter. Both of you will be happier for it.

An email or text is fine, too. Studies show gratitude gives our friendships a “booster shot” and predicts relationship satisfaction. Gratitude doesn’t just help friendships. It also improves work relationships. One study showed that although we say “thanks” regularly to family, only 15 percent show gratitude at work. And 35 percent of those surveyed said their boss never says it.

You’re not too busy — and neither are they — for a brief show of sincere gratitude. You may think they already know how you feel, but showing it is where the real magic is.


This article is By Eric Barker and adapted from “From Barking Up The Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong.” Copyright © 2017 by Eric Barker. Reprinted with permission by HarperOne, a division of HarperCollinsPublishers. Barker’s popular blog can be found here.


View original article in The Washington Post

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Celebrate Outstanding Leadership Awards Honorees

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Leadership Sarasota County, a program of The Greater Sarasota Chamber of Commerce, will host the annual Celebrate Outstanding Leadership Awards on Tuesday, May 8, at 11:30 a.m. at the new Art Ovation Hotel. Awards will honor influential graduates of the Leadership Sarasota County program in three categories: Lifetime of Leadership, Impact In Action, and Leadership Sarasota Dedication. The honorees were nominated by fellow Leadership Sarasota County Alumni members.

For reservations for the Celebrate Outstanding Leadership Awards Luncheon, click here or contact Barbara Hines, (941) 556-4026, if you have any questions.


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W.E. “CHIP” GAYLOR

Lifetime of Leadership Award Honoree

Chip Gaylor is a partner in the law firm of Muirhead, Gaylor, Steves, & Waskom P.A. He received his B.A. from Asbury College, his J.D. from the Washington College of Law at the American University and his LL.M. from the University of Miami Law School. He is a member of the Florida Bar Association and Sarasota County Bar Association and is a member of the Real Property, Probate, and Trust Law Section of both bar associations, and past Chair of the Sarasota County Bar section. He currently serves as President of the Sarasota County Bar Association.

Attorney Gaylor served on the Board of Directors of the Community Foundation of Sarasota County, Inc., and was Chair from 1995 to 1997. His law firm currently serves as general counsel to the Foundation. He joined the New College Library Association Board in 1998 and was elected President for two terms in 2000. In 2003 he was elected to the board of the New College Foundation and served until 2014. Continue reading “Celebrate Outstanding Leadership Awards Honorees”

Sarasota Film Festival Celebrates 20 Years

This year we celebrate our 20th Anniversary of the Sarasota Film Festival.  The 10-day festival will showcase 90 features, 131 shorts and will take place in Downtown Sarasota from April 13 – 22, 2018.

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Our In Conversation With series features in-depth interviews with Eric Stoltz whose award-winning feature Class Rank will open the SFF, Oscar-nominated Virginia Madsen, seasoned actor Steve Guttenberg and Academy Award-nominated director, producer and philanthropist Rory Kennedy.

The educational program will expand this year with the introduction of the 20 Hour Film Contest. As in our past festivals, we continue to provide programming of, by, and for students within the Sarasota-Manatee region.

This year’s special edition poster was designed by local Kelsey Hunt-Dolan, a graduate of New College of Florida.  The iconic statue of David, which serves as the city’s official symbol and the Roman numerals “XX” on the poster commemorates the 20 year anniversary of the festival.

For more information and tickets to the 20th Anniversary Sarasota Film Festival, please visit www.sarasotafilmfestival.com.

The Q Dash Scavenger Hunt: 5 Reasons to Join in the Fun

Sarasota’s most unique downtown scavenger hunt is back! The 2nd Annual Q Dash Scavenger Hunt, hosted by the Sarasota Young Professionals Group, will take place on Saturday, March 3, 2018, from 2-5 p.m. Teams of four will compete to decode clues and find landmarks throughout downtown Sarasota and earn points by posting on social media.

Wondering if you should join in on the fun? Here are 5 reasons why you’ll regret not signing up:

Compete for a Grand Prize package…and bragging rights.

            Teams earn points by decoding clues and discovering landmarks throughout the city. When teams find a correct landmark, they will post a photo on social media, which alerts our Q Dash judges to add points to their total score. The team with the most points will win a Grand Prize package of goodies from local businesses and organizations, including Mote Marine Laboratory and Aquarium, Escape Countdown, Bookstore1, Penzey’s Spices, and more! Even if you don’t win the Grand Prize, there are still opportunities to win prizes with the Judge’s Choice for Most Creative Photo, Best Team Costume, and Best Wrong Answer.

 

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“The Tape Players” team from Intertape Polymer Group hamming it up in the
2017 Q Dash Scavenger Hunt.

 

It’s a cheap, fun way to get your team out of the office and do some real team-building.

Looking to re-energize your staff and help them connect outside the office walls? The Q Dash is a wonderful team-building experience! Learn about your staff’s areas of strength and how they work together to solve problems in a new context, all while having FUN!

Being new to Sarasota can be an advantage.

            You might wonder it life-long Sarasotans will be more likely to find the landmarks, but that simply isn’t true. Q Dash Co-Chair, Andrea Knies, says “Having a diverse team really makes a big difference. Newcomers to the area will have fresh eyes, and spot things that those who grew up here easily overlook.”

 

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Team “Where the Wild Things Are” spot a mosaic in Burns Court

 

Discover a side of downtown you didn’t know.

The Q Dash is all about noticing. One of the common themes we heard from our participants last year was that they noticed interesting buildings, public art, and other quirky landmarks that they hadn’t before; even after walking past them hundreds of times. In the year since our first Q Dash Scavenger Hunt, we’ve added lots of new landmarks and expanded the bonus menu—keeping even the most seasoned Sarasotans on their toes!

 

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The “K2 Mountain Climbers” enjoying specialty cocktails at MeLange.

 

 

Sample food and drink at the Q Dash Pit Stops.

Need a break and time to re-strategize? Check in at one of our Pit Stops, like Louies Modern! Enjoy complimentary food and drinks while reviewing the Clue Book.


Register Here!

TEAMS OF 4 – $80

Contact Mimi Cirbusova, Q Dash Coordinator, for more information: mcirbusova@sarasotachamber.com or (941) 556-4038.

Siesta Key Crystal Classic Opens This Weekend!

The Siesta Key Crystal Classic International Sand Sculpting Festival starts this weekend, November 10-13, 2017. The master sculptors, coming to us from all over the world, will create sand masterpieces, some over ten feet tall, and transform the always beautiful Siesta Beach into an outdoor art gallery. These renowned artists will produce spectacular, ephemeral works of art from just sand and water.

 

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Siesta Key Crystal Classic, November 10-13

 

This year the festival will be open until 9 pm on Friday and Saturday nights with live music, lighted sculpture displays, and drinks from the party tent. Reverand Barry & The Funktastic Soul will be playing Friday night with One Night Rodeo taking the stage on Saturday night!

The festival also features live music all four days, a large shopping village, and a variety of food and drink vendors. Other activities include the “Quick Sand” speed sculpting competition, sand sculpting lessons & demos, an amateur competition, and The Learning Curve – Kid’s Art & Science Lab.

Admission is $10 for adults, $8 for seniors 65+ and military personnel, $5 for children 5-17 and under 5 is free. See the full 2017 festival schedule on the website: www.siestakeycrystalclassic.com.


The Greater Sarasota Chamber of Commerce is a proud in-kind sponsor of the Siesta Key Crystal Classic International Sand Sculpting Festival. 

8th Siesta Key Crystal Classic Returns November 10th-13th!

This November 10th-13th, the world’s preeminent master sand sculptors will be competing in the Siesta Key Crystal Classic. Now in its 8th year, this popular visual and cultural arts festival have hosted over 250,000 attendees on our #1 beach!

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Over the course of approximately 4 days, 12 teams of two master sand sculptors, who hail from all over the world, create 8 – 10′ high, 3-dimensional sand sculptures out of the whitest, finest sand in the world. They compete for prize money and an award at the largest sand sculpting doubles competition in the United States.

This Siesta Key Crystal Classic International Sand Sculpting Festival also features a Vendor Village on the sand Friday through Monday, live entertainment daily and until 9 pm Friday & Saturday, sculpting lessons, an amateur contest, The Learning Curve – Arts & Science lab, Quick Sand competitions and demonstrations all taking place on the #1 beach on Siesta Key. Awards & prize money are given on Sunday, 11/12/17 at 3 pm.

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Information regarding the 2017 event schedule, ticket options, and parking passes can be found on the website: www.siestakeycrystalclassic.com.

“See and Be Scene” at Sarasota Film Festival

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The Sarasota Film Festival (SFF) is recognized as a world-class platform for thought-provoking films from some of the best-known and emerging independent voices. Although the Sarasota Film Festival is one of nearly 850 film festivals in North America, they continually rank in the top ten percent.

In February, the Sarasota Film Festival unveiled their new campaign artwork created by Tyler Mathis, a Motion Design student at Ringling College of Art and Design. The annual celebration of film returns to Downtown Sarasota March 31st – April 9th, and the theme is a multidimensional play on words: See & Be Seen, Sea & Be Seen, and See & Be Scene. “For that reason, we are excited to share an artwork triptych, each of which captures the different iterations. Which one is your Festival?”

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This year’s Festival will welcome some celebrity star power, as well. Oscar-nominated actor Stanley Tucci, Golden Globe-nominated actress Rosanna Arquette, actress Diane Lane, documentarian Rory Kennedy and actress-filmmaker Aisha Tyler are set to attend this year’s festival.

For more information and tickets to the Sarasota Film Festival, please visit their website here!


The Greater Sarasota Chamber of Commerce is a Proud Supporter of the 2017 Sarasota Film Festival!